a Ballet Education

fifth position a ballet educationI have a pretty popular ballet blog, www.aBalletEducation.com Now, with the dance community reading, I need to figure out a way to generate a larger profit, as the blog is taking up a lot of my time. So, I know PR, Marketing and Publishing so I have decided to flip it into a magazine. #STRESS

#workflow: SOCIAL CULTURE

BTS copyLike any Monday Morning at 12:43 AM, I am up working. Between writing for The Gay Man’s Guide, producing two publications, and freelancing… Of course I am up this late/early.  It is the name of the game. The Real Housewives is on in the background, and I am starring at my computer screen thinking, “WTF.” The work is piling up, and emails are sitting there saying READ ME, but the reality is… I’m exhausted. Then, I find little things pop on Facebook, like the image above. Would it be nice for a million dollar investment fall from the sky? Yes. Is it probably going to happen? No.

Now, pushing forward… and hoping for the best.
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Deux Café

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In gay world, it seems that we are always drinking… Drinking coffee, drinking cocktails, drinking wine.  The older we get, the more sophisticated our palettes become, and our patience with hot messes thins… So, on a rainy Thursday, Mario and I set off to one of our favorite coffee shops and catch up. Check out The Gay Man’s Guide to Coffee.

Welcome. Deal With It.

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Pretty much how I feel 99.9% of the time… Deal with it.

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The Rating System

So, recently I was exploring Social Media, and dating apps through iPhone for thegaymansguide.com. And there are tons of options out there, like tons. When they say there is an app for everything, there really is. As I was exploring these apps, I realized that most of these companies do exactly what I do for work; facilitating discourse about beauty. Now, social media has changed everything about the fashion industry because with apps like IG, everyone is their own content editor, re-toucher, and creative director. Apps like Gindr and Jack’d have started a way to GPS dating, while other apps cater to fetishes, daddies, and bears. Then, after all this research, I decided to look deeper into the rating system and realized that by nature we review, and rate.
 
While most social media facilitates a worldwide popularity contest, and there is some good that comes of it, it makes me wonder what makes someone popular online? From stupid videos, to talented artists, to cats, it makes me wonder what our culture has shifted to with this era of technology? Recently, I cleaned out my facebook and deleted close to 600 “friends” because I really didn’t know much about them besides meeting them at a work event, or exchanging small chat via social media. As you are going through your friends list you start evaluating relationships in your life, and it doesn’t help that I was doing this while exploring the subjectivity of beauty and how it is rated…
 
So, via grindr, jack’d, and scruff I was simply asking people to rate me. It was an easy task. On average I hit about a 6, which isn’t awful I suppose. But, when I asked what they would rate themselves they said they couldn’t. Ironic? Low self esteem? Or if someone were to respond with a 10, would the perception be that they are overconfident and a little cocky? Now, via facebook and my friends, I asked them to rate me, and out of courtesy most of them rated me a 10, this was followed by a dialogue about how beauty is subjective, and is this a cry for help? Another point of confusion on all of our behalves.
 
While we sit in theaters judging movies, ballets, performances, or sitting in your car reviewing music, we are trying to decipher what is good and is disliked, by personal taste. As we slowly narrow down our options it makes me wonder what we might be missing out on. In a recent conversation with someone via a social media app, he asked what I was doing with friends, and when I said I was meeting them for drinks, he then replied with, “Don’t you want to spend quality time with them?” Don’t get me wrong, I understood where he was coming from, but it made me question how the rating system/ our preferences can create misconceptions.
 
I know I have blogged a lot about preference being micro aggressors towards racism, and as preference can cause to missing out on things, or isolation, or loss of experience, it makes me wonder how we would rate ourselves?
 
If on looks alone the world perceives me on the average, then how do they view my work?
If by intelligence, charm, and other personal qualities like humor make our number go up, than definitely our faults make us go down. And, I don’t know about you, but as you are your harshest critic, my number would fall below average…
 
So like the clichés stand: don’t judge a book by it’s cover.  First impressions are everything.
Be careful on the next time you find yourself rating someone in your head, or disclosing your preference. You might be missing out on the opportunity of a lifetime, the love of your life, or simply a really good friend.

And it might just be time to put down social media….

 
 


When life gives you lemons, screw making lemonade… Make prossecco instead. Its sparkly and gives you a buzz.

This year has been one of the most trying years of my life. It has been exhausting, and with 60 days left, I can’t wait till the new year starts. For my circle of friends, this year has been costly. We have paid such high prices. Most of us lost multiple family members, encountered personal health problems, and battled against the economy. So, this post is for my friend, my mister sister: Michael.

Life only gets better. Even though this year has exhausted you, you are still here… fighting. That is the thing about us, we are fighters. We thrive on adrenaline, and the drama of our lives just makes for better stories. I can’t tell you that next year is going to be amazing, that no one you will be lost, or that you will land a huge promotion. Here is what I can tell you, life is hard, like really hard. That people you love will pass, and that in the workforce there is always someone better than you. Yeah, the truth is hard. But here is another truth about life: I will always be here for you. That when the times are rough, when the walls are caving in, I will be there to push them back. When you need to cry, you can go to someone else (lezbehonest… I am not the best with that), but when you need a night to escape, I’ll be here. I will always have a bottle of Tanqueray for me, and a bottle of Crown for you, a pack of smokes, and other things that are between sisters. I will be right next to you, sweating on the dance floor, singing in the car on a road trip, falling asleep next to you watching Steel Magnolias. I won’t be at the gym with you while you let out your frustration, you can do that with Mario, but I will be there for shopping, and eating out at fabulous restaurants. 

Here is some of what I have learned about our friendship:
Ice cream and Steel Magnolias will always make us laugh.
That if we were ever to commit murder, we would have Southern Accents when doing so.
That dancing to every style of music makes us laugh.
That our numerous selfies will always be entertaining, even if we look like shit that day.
You will always take care of me when I am a drunk mess, in a frenzy of creativeness, and when my stress levels are out of control.
That if you are ketchup, than I am mustard. 
That we will always be honest to each other.
And finally…
You will never be able to get rid of me.
xoxo – me.